And now for something different
Below are some of the most popular ceremonies that can be included into your day.
Together we can research family, ethnic and historical traditions that will truly personalise your ceremony.
Create a Guest Bouquet:-
For something really fun and quirky and the ultimate in DIY! Why not let your guests help you to create your wedding bouquet?
As your guests enter your venue, give each of them a flower. Or why not ask each guest to bring a flower as their gift to you.
Then as you walk up the aisle, stop to collect the flower from each of them … assembling your bouquet as you.
This gives you the fabulous opportunity to acknowledge and involve your guests while building the ultimate DIY bouquet.
For a variation on the theme:-
Having a garden wedding at home?
If you or someone you know is a keen gardener why not grow your own bouquet so that on your big day you can select your blooms as you walk down the aisle (around the garden) and have them tied into a bouquet by your mum
(or other significant person in your life).
Works just as well with buttonholes for the Grooms and posies for your attendants.
Ring Warming Ceremony: -
Rings can be passed around the room on a ring cushion, or in a bag.
Everyone holds the rings for a few seconds, and says a little blessing/prayer for them.
Then by the time you make your vows, the rings have made their way all the way around the room, and all your loved ones have given their blessing.
An alternative is to have them displayed at the ceremony entrance, and have people give their blessings before they sit down.
The term ‘ Tying the Knot’ comes from the Celtic tradition of Handfasting It is a simple and traditional ceremony used in a lot of Irish, Scottish, and Welsh weddings.
It involves the tying of hands together, with ribbons or cords to symbolise the coming-together of a couples, and remains tied together for
‘As long as love shall last’.
Sand Ceremony: -
The blending of two different coloured sands into a single vessel represents a symbolic blending of two different people, into a single, inseparable unit that is their marriage.
As impossible as it is to separate out those grains of sand, that’s how difficult it is to separate these two people.
Rose Ceremony: -
A simple unity ceremony, where the couple exchange roses as their
first gifts to one another.
Other variations: The families exchange roses, the couple exchange roses with their families, or the couple exchange roses, then present their mothers with the roses.
Wine Ceremony: -
The couple each take a carafe of wine and pour it into a single glass, which they both drink from.
Celtic Oathing Stone: -
The couple holds or puts their hands on a stone during their vows to 'set them in stone.'
The Pebble Warming Tradition: -
Have everyone hold a pebble and bless it during the ceremony.
After the ceremony they place it into a vase or other container, for the newlyweds to display in their home.
Jumping the Broom: -
Is a symbol of sweeping away the old and welcoming the new, or a symbol of new beginnings.
This broom ceremony represents the joining of two families.
It's showing respect, and paying homage to those who came before us and paved our way.
First Argument Box: -
Before the wedding, write each other a letter and seal it in an envelope.
During the wedding ceremony, seal the letters into a box with a bottle of wine... to be opened in the event of your first serious disagreement.
Open the bottle and take the letters to separate rooms, and read whilst having a drink to remind yourselves of where you started, and where you want to go with the person who you exchanged those vows with.
A novel way to remember who you fell in love with, and why.
And it's sure to raise a laugh with your guests when you explain what you are doing and why.
Truce Bell Ceremony: -
A part of the wedding ceremony itself.
A bell is presented to the happy couple to ring together as they think nothing but good thoughts of each other and of their future lives. The bell is then kept in a place of prominence in the home, and can be rung as a reminder of happier times, should an argument or discord erupt and threaten the peace.
Bread, Salt and Vodka Ceremony: -
The bread and salt tradition is a Slavic custom that dates back to the 17th century.
It is basically a greeting ceremony, and is practised in many Eastern European nations, including Poland, Russia, Serbia & Bulgaria. In simple terms, the host and/or hostess of a household, or event,
will welcome important guests by presenting them with a loaf of bread and some salt.
The guest will then take a piece of bread, dip it into the salt, and eat it.
This is supposed to be a symbol of great hospitality, as well as an expression of hope that the guest will never know the pain of hunger.
This can be adapted to take place just between the couple... and the addition of the vodka is great fun!
Take two shot glasses, fill one with vodka, the other with water, and mix them up.
Whoever gets the vodka 'is the boss' in the relationship, so choose wisely!
Love Lock Ceremony: -
A relatively new ceremony in Western cultures, it is thought to originate from China.
Together we can create a script to explain the significance of this symbolic moment to your guests,
reflecting on the meaning of this ritual, and why it resonates with you as a couple.
You can also weave-in a suitable poem about locks, keys and love.
Check out www.lovelocksonline.com to find your perfect lock and key.
First Kiss ~ Last Kiss: -
A fabulous way to get your mums involved.
At the beginning of the ceremony, both mums come to the front, and kiss their own child…
a lovely symbolic transition from her first kiss to her newborn, to her last kiss to her adult child as they leave the single life behind.
Christmas Tree Unity Ceremony: -
For a festive and fun way to end your ceremony, why not consider a unity ceremony with a difference?
From grandparents to children, members of both families place baubles
(with or without notes to the newlyweds inside) on a Christmas tree.
The baubles can later be placed on their tree at home, and a lovely new family tradition started with sparkle and cheer.
Dating back to the turn of the 19th century when sailors started a new art form known as 'Knotting'.
Some knots were created for decorative use whilst others were solely for work, other knots were used to signify meaning.
One knot that arose during this time period that was heavily laden with meaning was the True lovers' knot.
It is a simple and clear knot, implying its forthright goal.
It is made up of two overhand knots, linked together, much like the “true-lovers” are in their hearts.
A lovelorn sailor would tie the knot loosely, and send it to his sweetheart back home.
Upon receiving it, his sweetheart could:
Untie it, meaning the sailor shouldn’t show his face the next time he was in port, or she would send it back, leaving it loose, the way she received it, meaning the sailor would be welcomed home, but he better be on his best behaviour, or she could tighten the knot before returning it, meaning the sailor should hurry his way to the homestead.
An alternative to the traditional Celtic handfasting ceremony, but just as much fun with just as much symbolic meaning.
A sure fire winner for chocoholics!
Select a dark chocolate and a milk or white chocolate each to include in your ceremony.
Dark chocolate can be bitter and milk or white chocolate sweet, just like a relationship!
Take a moment to savour the unique flavours that each has to offer...just as you will savour each other.
(If this is to be included in a Summer outdoor wedding, make sure we have a decorated small cool box nearby too...
to keep the chocolate from melting before the big moment!)
Sandwich Making Ritual:-
Why not go for a fun and modern ritual?
A sandwich recipe can easily symbolise a marriage.
Each of you brings your own 'ingredients' to the mix.
You can create a synergy of tastes and flavours that best represent you as individuals and now as a married couple...
Why not make up your own unique recipe to be unveiled on the day and invite your guests to try it at your wedding breakfast...
Taken from the ancient Chinese traditions, this ritual is a symbolic and formal introduction of the happy couple to one another's families.
Ideal for a small and intimate ceremony, grandparents, parents and siblings can be offered tea by the happy couple as they form a circle of unity around them.
Cocktail Mixing Ceremony:-
For the mixologists out there, why not invent your own cocktail to be unveiled at you ceremony…
Just like the sandwich making ritual, you both have unique and different qualities that you are bringing to this union,
why not express it in the form of a new cocktail..
The possibilities are endless.
Stop The Clock:-
To celebrate the 'most beautiful moment' in your lives why not consider breaking an old wristwatch or timepiece immediately after exchanging your vows.
Freeze time in the most poignant of ceremonies.
Outsource The Ceremony:-
How brave do you feel?
How much do you trust your family and friends?
If you a feeling REALLY brave why not let them work with me to design your ceremony for you.
It will be a fabulous surprise for you on your big day, and I promise to reign them in if they get too carried away!
Check out my pinterest page for some ideas too, and why not load some on there that I might have missed so we can discuss them when we meet!
I am constantly researching different types of ceremonies from around the world, and so, if you can't find one that suits your needs, let's take a look together, or better still devise our own?
It is all about YOU and YOUR special day, and this should be reflected in the ceremony which I ultimately deliver.